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We all talk to ourselves constantly. Often the talk is an internal chatter, running through what we are already doing or need to do next. We may verbalize internally how we are feeling, good, happy, embarrassed, fearful. Affirmations tend to be the phrases that we constantly repeat, and we say them with such conviction that we come to believe them to be true.Many of us call ourselves names, berate ourselves if we say or do something wrong. We are aware of what we are saying and hearing these phrases repeatedly can establish an automatic response pattern in our thoughts and thinking. So, if we make a mistake it can become automatic to call ourselves names, like thick or stupid, or even come to expect ourselves to fail.The best affirmations are the ones that lift our spirits, that improve our self-belief, that reinforce the belief that we are good, worthy, valid and able to do what we want to do. However, there is no point in picking lots of phrases and repeating them over and over again if they don?t feel right to us. Saying things that don?t have an inner resonance with us can feel contrived and artificial.Picking the best affirmations for ourselves can take a little work. I tend to suggest that my clients focus on finding two or three phrases that really work for them. We consider areas of their lives that they want to improve and work through an exercise to find the best fit for their own personal affirmations.Many people have issues with their confidence. It can be useful to reflect on the areas where confidence is a struggle. Some people may feel vulnerable in a work situation, where people around them appear to be exceptionally professional, experienced and capable. For others it may be social situations, where their friends appear attractive, smart and relaxed.The next step is considering what would make a difference to their confidence levels. For example, it may involve being more relaxed, calm and comfortable when with others. This can then raise the question as to why this isn?t happening already, what is stopping the person from being the way they want to be. They may, for example, say that they feel awkward, unsure as to what to say, shy about joining others in conversation.Once this has been done, the next step can be reflecting on what phrases they have heard over the years that came to impede their confidence. Some may have been told that children should be seen and not heard, or told off for asking too many questions, or chastised for being too exuberant. Hearing negative messages about ourselves can cause us to become unsure of our behaviour. Children want praise and approval so will often modify their behaviour in order to receive good quality attention.Starting to phrase a sentence or two that includes the ultimate goal, the means of achieving it and the positive feelings and energy required along the way can provide positive, solid affirmations that sit right with each person, ring true and provide a therapy of their own. They can heal the original conditioning, the negative learned behaviour. They bring about a positive result in each person, tailored to suit their own express needs. These are the best affirmations of all.

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